DETAILS: INITIATE RELATIONSHIPS

When I think about creating a culture of anticipating needs in my own life, I can't help but think of the importance of creating a good network of relationships. Relationships have helped sharpen me and think about things from angles that are new to me. Relationships push me out of my comfort zone and helped me know how to think like other people, which helps me anticipate needs. Some relationships happen organically, while others take initiative and sometimes even planning.

Here are three areas that I've found helpful when thinking about relationships in more of a general way.

INITIATE INTRODUCTIONS

Relationships are really important. They provide a unique opportunity to interact with another person where mutual encouragement and support is possible. Often times, we miss out on the chance to partner together with others just because we aren't taking the initiative and seeking them out. 

One of the first things I've tried to do when starting a new job or moving to a new area is schedule lunches with co-workers or others nearby so we can get to know one another. These initiated relationships have typically been strong and established a healthy give-and-take from both sides. It was helpful for me to take this initiative to bring support to my work, get to know people better, and build camaraderie with peers.

Some of my dearest and closest friends have come from these kinds of interactions. Don't wait for people to reach out to you; take the initiative to introduce yourself and set up a lunch.

INITIATE MENTORING OPPORTUNITIES

As I've met people and developed friendships over the years, I've often come across certain people that I've observed and thought to myself: I would really like to model how they do things. Sometimes you may find that you could learn a lot from this person and their personal successes. If this is the case, take the initiative to start a mentoring relationship. This is important as it isn't likely someone will seek you out and ask if they can mentor you. 

INITIATE TRUST

Whether you're in a relationship with a close friend, a co-worker, or a mentor, it's important to build trust in the relationship. Relationships thrive when there's a high level of trust. 

Trust is established and cultivated when you follow through on your commitments and you do what you say you're going to do. Trust is built when you show honor by respecting the needs and requests of those you have a relationship with. Trust is also built by being consistent and steady. When people know they can trust you and depend on you it makes all of the difference in the world. You'd be surprised at how far something as simple as this can go.

I'd love to hear of some ways that you have initiated relationships in the past and how many of them have turned into long lasting friendships.

|  Credits: Author - Jacintha Payne; Photography - Ali Marsh |